Staying happy

Maybe you too have felt that the people who are the mainstay of your life don't really care that much about your little whims and fancies, and about your feelings on day-to-day matters. They can be impatient with you and show double standards in the little things if you live together. If they are your friends, they can be totally non-apologetic when they fail to realize you have been upset the other evening. If they are your classmates they might just fail to warn you about the quiz coming up in the course you were serious about. If you are the type to feel a temporary surge of anger, sadness or indignation, but then eventually forgive them and behave in an accommodating manner, then you might ask yourself, "Why can't I have others do as I please? I am sure there are people who are always pleased by those around them." You might even tell yourself "Why the hell am I so kind and forgiving? I want to be really bitchy once in a while". Yet you don't tend to change your behaviour in the long run, because... let's face it. That is just how you are made and you can't change your nature just in order to feel more successful or in control. In important matters you guard your territory well but in these little issues you leave it alone.

What is really lovely is that for every ten or twenty people who pay you less attention than you would like, there will be one who does really understand what you might be feeling. You have friends who show you who you are without intending to. They are able to make you see yourself the way you would like to. They see maybe not even you but some kind of rugged cuteness hidden beneath your flaky exterior, and they care enough to share it with you. Maybe they just want a laugh. In such moments you don't feel the need to change.